Empowerment — A Matter of Choice…

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Disclaimer

All the Character of the article are Realistic but Not at all related to my Life. I am not at all Part of any such event thankfully. Have wrote it from Third Person point of view so you are requested to read it from the same Point of view 🙂 😛 …..

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“Hey…. Take sweets.. M getting married next month.. ” She said with an amazing smiling face.

“Wow great congrats yaar.. great.. ” I wished her with smile and asked general curious questions.

“So where’s he? what doing?”

“He is in xxxxxx MNC on xxxx post…”

“So you will be taking transfer after marriage? ”

“No no.. I am resigning now. No need of doing job after marriage you know.. ”

I stopped myself to ask any reason/vision for the same as these dialogues are very much usual I hear around myself.

These are usual thing happening in our Multi cultural, Broad minded, and Forward India… 🙂

You know we are so much following Western Culture.. We are so broad minded, Now there is nothing like A girl Child is a Curse in INDIA.

Yes, I agree that thinking is not there but what I felt is a different side of this mindset of this thing which I came across and that was really shocking..

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“But at last moment, How we can arrange for this much amount ? ” I heard a voice crying in a corner late night.

She was talking to him before 10 days of their marriage. From the conversation, the thing was very clear that some unusual demand was put by them @ very last moment and the girl was convincing to buy some time for the demand !!!!

Yeah, what else she can do? After all she is a poor girl (Abala Nari) ! If that was the case, I would not have been shocked but She was Highly qualified, working in MNC @ very respected position and yet she was crying in front of some Jerk who was not interested in Listening to her and was not ready to Support her in such time.

Though She is having good job, independent and well formed carrier she was crying to him just for some gifts asked by Groom’s family to show off at the time of marriage. This thing reflects the mindset of Indian Girl that Doesn’t matter how Bold, Forward and Broadminded we pretend, At the end it is a MATTER OF CHOICE for an Indian Girl to sacrifice her existence after marriage…!!!

We are still living in a mindset where we are seeing Women sacrificing their everything to please Men and his family and that is called Greatness of a Woman. We are not raising our Voice though we are allowed to do it. Today also in India, Groom’s family is privileged to ask for any damn thing and we fulfill it folding our hands to them with smiling face. I am not against that, but Its about changing An Indian Girl’s mindset that She can not speak in such scenarios described above.

I am not talking about Women Empowerment here.. 😛 We are equally empowered but we are not ready to use our freedom and raise our voice where Necessary. That mindset needs to be changed.

We don’t need any Empowerment programs or lectures of Leading Women in the World but need a strong Moral and self-respect in such situation. It should be our choice to be fearless and protest against such demands. Dowry/Demands will be there anyways, Its our choice not to surrender to such things.

“Feminism isn’t about making women strong. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength.” —G.D. Anderson

 

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The Celebration of Pain..!!!

Meri beabsi ka bayan hai….
bas chal raha na is ghadi… ras hasrat ka nichod do
kas bahon me aa tod doon…chhhon kya jaanon na
cheen loon, chhod doo…
is lamhe kya kar jaon

The celebration of Pain… because when the Heart is Hurt, it doesn’t make noise.. it produces the rhythm of pain… it cries n cries… tears of bleeding heart creates a soulful rhythm. That’s why it is said that most creative people are those one who have suffered a lot in their life.

The best example is world famous Charlie Chaplin. He was the artist who has suffered a lot and that was the reason he made the world laugh so that so many people on this earth may forget their sorrows and pain for some time. Some of his quotes are truly magical like :

1) Life could be wonderful if people would leave you alone.

Chaplin

A Trump fighting his sadness - Courtesy Wikimedia

2) Life is a tragedy when seen in close-up, but a comedy in long-shot.

3) To truly laugh, you must be able to take your pain, and play with it!

He truly celebrated each and every moment of his painful life to spread happiness in the world. He taught the world to Laugh in the moments of pain. Same theme was there in ‘Rockstar’… Pain of Jordan was entertainment for the world. Very strong concept and beautifully executed…

                         If you want to rule the World, your inner weakness is your biggest Strength.

                     Nobody will be there always to wipe your tears, not even your shadow. Its only you who can truly understand the pain and can make a way to loudly throw it out. JV mentioned in one of his articles about Lady Gaga that after her breakup was the reason behind her endless passion and success. If you think any magic will happen and everything will be all right, then forget it. Only you can make it better if you want to. No Hero/Princess will come to take you out dear… Life is Hard, people will cheat, people will lie, people will throw you away. You will feel hurt, cheated, but nobody will be there to give you a hand to get up. Only you can help yourself.

So forget waiting or expecting from others dear, if you want to get up do it or else you will be CRUSHED!!!

When thought becomes excessively painful, action is the finest remedy..

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